As you realize that you are about to enter the divorce process, there are many running thoughts and emotions. Usually those thoughts and emotions are negative as your instinct tells you “I must win this battle”, “I will make his/her life miserable for what he/she did to me”, and the list is endless…
So, without realizing, you find yourself in a competition, a very negative one. This type of competition will drain you and will show you sides of yourself that you never knew existed. Moreover, this type of competition will divert your focus to unnecessary direction. Instead of focusing on the important aspects of divorce, you will focus on “revenge” and “winning” and, to be honest, without realizing, you will end up losing!
Many times, your competition to win the divorce process will lead you to the court system. It is not a secret that divorce litigation can cost tens of thousands of dollars, if not more. To make matter worse, divorce litigation tends to be lengthy and require much of your time. So practically, competing to win the divorce, you lose your time, money, and probably emotional-mental well-being. Is it worth it? NO!
Choose COOPERATION! You can think of divorce as a conflict resolution effort. When you approach a conflict with an intention to cooperate, automatically, you open yourself up to an open discussion about different options. With that openness, you will be surprised that many of the things that matter to you don’t really matter to the other party. Hence, you will “win” your wishes without a battle and without any negativity. For other matters, an open discussion will open up windows for both parties to weight what’s worth giving and what’s worth getting. A conflict resolution is a joint effort of both parties towards a resolution.
Cooperation is full of positivity for the short and long term. It helps you move away from a “fight” mode into “work” mode. It helps you focus on what matters and ignore what doesn’t matter. Cooperation will save you time and money because when you choose to cooperate you can utilize divorce mediation that will facilitate a more peaceful divorce process.
Finally, when you choose cooperation you choose mental health! Cooperation will not drain you mentally like competition. Cooperation will give you a sense of control of your decisions. Cooperation will empower your ability to practice self-determination and to be proactive about your life challenges. Cooperation will help you focus on the greater future and not the miserable past. Take control of your life and choose cooperation today!
At RK Care Group we have highly skilled family mediators. Our mediators have wealth of professional mental health education, experience and skills. Their emphasis is on conflict resolution and helping both parties achieve their goals. So, if you live in one of the areas we serve and ever wonder “how can I get divorce mediation near me?”, call us! We will be happy to provide you with a FREE 15 minutes phone consultation. Our main office phone number is 305-900-7203. You can also visit our website at RKcaregroup.com. Remember, cooperation is better than competition!