Today one out of every two marriages ends in divorce. Many of these divorces involve families that include children. Going through the process of a divorce can be very distressing for those involved, specifically children . This is especially true when the divorce is full of disagreements and conflict. Children seem to be most negatively impacted by high conflict divorces. They can experience a variety of challenges and as a result act out. It is important to remember that they now have to adjust to a new normal which they may or may not understand.
They may feel :
What commonly happens is that parents are so overwhelmed by the pain they feel that they forget about how their children might feel. In addition , it is very difficult to have the system decide the fate of your family. Many would question whether the court system makes the best decisions for children involved. In cases where you want the child’s voice to be heard and you want them to heal from the difficulties of a divorce you may want to consider the following:
– hiring a therapeutic guardian ad-litem
– family therapy with both parents and child/ren
Lastly, it is important to note that as parents going through this process it is recommended to be honest with your children as the hardship of not knowing is far worse than being told the truth upfront. That is why it is important to know that a third parties intervention can be very helpful to assist you in that process.